Mc Coy further observes that grown kids may recoil if they perceive their parents as being needy. Take the initiative when you sense genuine estrangement.“What really turns young adults off,” she says, “is the idea that their parent has a problem and they’re supposed to fix it.” If you desire your child’s company, Mc Coy advises saying something like “I’d like to do something fun with you. If you’re feeling distant from your child, Coleman suggests proactively tackling the issue in a conversation.“I was surprised to hear from all three how much it had affected them and that they were going through their own ‘stuff’ about it,” he says. Create a full life that doesn’t revolve around your children.
We feel slighted; we consult therapists and counselors and discuss our state of mind on social media sites.
Noticing that he didn't have curtains on the windows, she volunteered to sew some — and was disappointed when he declined her offer. I thought he didn’t want me around.” Milo Greenberg, 60, had an even more disturbing situation with his grown children.
Then, when his girlfriend waltzed in an hour later with Bed Bath & Beyond shopping bags stuffed with drapes, Tracey almost burst into tears. “My ex-wife and I waited until after they were on their own before we divorced," he says.
I don’t need to go into detail, but there were reasons.’ You have to assume your child will eventually get over it.” That’s what eventually worked for Milo Greenberg.
After a year of experiencing his children as distant, he finally got them all together and let them know he wanted their relationship to go back to normal.
“Young adults may be caught up in their own lives and not in touch as much as a parent may wish,” she says.