Chloe Diorio, a 25-year-old marketing coordinator from Boston, cited pressure from her ex-boyfriend’s family to stay together as one factor that made her want to end things with him before the holiday season fully commenced, since she was having doubts about the relationship.
Instead of sharing that long list of cons you jotted down in your journal, keep your reason for ending things as general and vague as possible.
For that reason, "they’ll likely become very hostile and attack you in return, no matter how kind you are." That kind of reaction is rooted in a compulsive need to "win" in almost every scenario.
“If you no longer want to be in a relationship with them, they may feel that you’re saying they’re a ‘loser’ and will try to turn the tables, turning you into the loser,” says Burgo.
While turkey dropping may seem harsh, there are a few reasons why it actually makes a lot of sense: HOLIDAYS BRING FAMILY STRESS “Family is a big influence” on your decision to keep a partner around for the holiday season or not, said Michelle Jacoby, owner of DC Matchmaking and Coaching.
“It’s about whether or not the person you’re dating is family worthy.” If you’re not sure about your relationship, you don’t want to excite your family by bringing your significant other along to holiday events, or having them bring you.
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