They're indoctrinated into the cult of extracurricular activities in middle and high school, and the involvement obsession continues throughout college almost as if by inertia.
"It's 'I'm secretary of this' and 'I'm director of that,'" she said.
But we also have very different academic interests: My boyfriend is studying architecture and I’m a business major.
Yet this actually helps our relationship because we tend to look at things from varying perspectives, which often results in interesting and lively conversations.
"And even they admit that a lot of it is kind of bogus."Rachel Greenwald, an author and dating coach, thinks it's because most college "relationships" now occur within the context of a brief sexual encounter, or "hookup," as the youth say.
"Romance," she said, "has gone the way of cursive handwriting." A recent study by the American Psychological Association found that between 60 and 80 percent of North American college students have had a hookup, even though 63 percent of college men and 83 percent of college women said they would prefer a traditional relationship."In gearing themselves up for sex, they're draining themselves emotionally," Greenwald said. discard, to ignore, to swallow their emotions so they can participate in the anxiety-provoking but common dynamic which is the hookup culture."Lori Gottlieb, an Atlantic contributor, author, and psychologist, thinks it's because Millennials have been so coddled by their parents and teachers that they are now unable to accept others' opinions and realities.
Spontaneity is another factor that keeps a relationship strong.
Trust is something that develops with time, through actions like being consistently affectionate, considerate and loyal, or perhaps making an outright commitment from the get-go that you are exclusive.But for all you romantics out there, take heart: Having a serious relationship in college is possible.I never expected to be in a long-term relationship myself, and now I’ve been with my boyfriend for over two years in college.My boyfriend and I are both foodies, so on dates we always go out to eat in Koreatown or Little Tokyo.We’re also both geeks at heart, so we’ll enjoy catching a few episodes of Pawn Stars on the History Channel together on a weeknight.