" she cooed.) But in her study of real-life successful marriages Judith Wallerstein reports that "the value these couples placed on the partner's moral qualities was an unexpected finding." To the Jewish mind, it isn't unexpected at all.
Just in African American conjure alone, without regard to other forms of folk magic found around the world -- white sugar, brown sugar, sugar cubes, powdered sugar, karo syrup, brer rabbit molasses, cane molasses, sorghum syrup, sweetened water, sweetened whiskey, honey, crystal syrup, log cabin maple syrup (in the house-shaped can), mrs butterworth's pancake syrup (in the lady-shaped bottle), dixie pancake syrup, aunt jemima's pancake syrup, agave syrup, jam, jelly, sweet chewing gum, candy bars, hard candies, sugar heart candies, chocolate truffle candies, butterscotch candies dissolved in sweet tea, lollipops, popsicles, sweet-n-low, equal, splenda, mannitol ("milk sugar"), dextrose powder, dextrose candies, and more -- -- all of these have been used, and are still used, in sweetening spells, either singly or mixed ith one another.
These may be the seeds of love, but they have yet to sprout.
On the wedding day, emotions run high, but true love should be at its lowest, because it will hopefully always be growing, as husband and wife give more and more to each other.
The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs (particularly, in an adult relationship, emotional needs).
The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he [or she] is, to be aware of his [or her] unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he [or she] is." These three components all depend upon the fourth, knowledge.
A woman I know once explained why she's been happily married for 25 years.