And like adventure games of old, if you don’t address it in the beginning, it can often be too late to fix things. Our sexual education system is at best a glorified anatomy lesson; at worst, it’s a collection of lies and deliberate misinformation designed to (theoretically) keep children from having sex ever.
We tell women to be sexis a new and radical concept.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that either person is bad; it’s far more likely that they’re just not sexually compatible.
This is why it’s important to have an actual conversation about their feelings on monogamy and sexual exclusivity – and especially what you both consider to be cheating.
People who complain will be told “really, isn’t that just a small thing in comparison to everything else in the relationship? Feeling as though your needs or desires are being neglected or ignored in one area is going to affect the other areas.
Most of these issues tend to result not because of any inherent perversity or flaw in one or both partners; it’s simply a matter of the fact that they’re .
They simply have needs that the other person can’t (or won’t) fulfill.
Monogamy just means you choose not to have sex with other people, not that you don’t Some people are very good at monogamy and never experience a moment’s hesitation or temptation.
Other people are very bad at it and inevitably cheat on their partner – even when they have the best of intentions.