I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.
In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.
A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.
Your time is valuable and should be used to communicate with people truly interested in meeting you.
I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.
It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.
Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating.
She was very nice and we got along well so I was willing to communicate but let her know I’d be talking to others while she gained comfort.On my first date with my wife, I schedule a one hour date at a diner.After the hour was over, I explained that I only extend the good dates and since ours was a great date asked if she would be up for miniature golf (she was).Limiting the time of the first date is a safety precaution: if you end up on a nightmare of a date you’ve already established your “out”.If on the other hand the date is going excellent, suggest to your date that you extend it.
One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.