Make a Move In your initial e-mail to a potential partner, it's crucial to indicate that you've read his profile and took an interest in it.
According to Ok Trends, the top three phrases in initial e-mails with the highest response rate are "you mention," "good taste" and "noticed that." So, describe something that resonated with you from his profile, advises Spira, but avoid physical compliments because "they seem too clichéd." And keep it brief: Ok Trends found that the ideal first message length is only 200 characters, or one minute's worth of typing for the average writer.
To do that, "talk about yourself in anecdotes," says Gonzaga.
Instead of saying that you like to cook (which plenty of people will do), describe in detail what your favorite meal to make is.
After that, have a phone conversation—trade cell phone numbers, never home numbers.
If you contact someone and haven't heard back in a week, it's OK to send a second e-mail.
While the pictures you post should be clear—giving the viewer an accurate glimpse of what you really look like—don't completely discount self-taken shots (the ones where you hold out your camera to take your own portrait).
Ok Trends, the data-analysis blog for the dating website Ok Cupid.com, says that self-shot photos can actually be very effective in attracting partners, most likely because they are approachable, casual and make the viewer feel close to the subject—all good things! Your Profile Your goal should be to create an engaging profile that piques people's interest and makes them want to know more about you.
You may have stopped checking your profile and messages, but has he? Breaking Up If your relationship fizzles after a few dates, it may be tempting to revert back to e-mail to end it. "Don't go down in history as the guy or girl who dumped someone over e-mail, especially when e-mails can be forwarded." Instead, apply the Golden Rule and treat others as you would want to be treated. Safety Taking safety precautions is always crucial, whether you're dating someone you met online or in person.
Until you've had a conversation about retiring your profiles, says Spira, assume that he is still dating other people. Never give out your home phone number or address until you get to know someone, and always choose a public place for your first date.
If someone is new to a site, his or her profile is often featured in the community and the person becomes inundated with e-mails.