Attraction is also the feeling of being in sync with someone.With friends, you get along great and have lovely conversations, but finding someone you have a unique connection with--whether you share the same humor, frequent the same foursquare locales or both love "The Golden Girls"-- is what gets chemistry beakers boiling.I've also seen it written by many psychologists on this site that *friendship* is the basis of a good romantic relationship.Ms Kim shouldn't state such radical opinions as ''friends first doesn't work'' as fact. I think the fallacy is based on the idea that people are friends because they don't find each other physically attractive, as though that is the major consideration in classifying a new relationship.For example, my biggest turn on is someone with vocal talent-specifically impersonations.If you can do a really good Kermit imitation, I'm yours.
It's important to treat all your friendships with respect. ") because she seems to think the most salient aspect of friendship is not having sex, or maybe because she wants traditional courtship and/or thinks the man has to prove himself to her first (rarely is it the other way around) but can't put it that way.
I also have friends who don't share their different friend circles, for fear of social miscegenation.
Also, everyone has had or been a "bad friend" at some point in their lives, right?
Attraction must always be present and must always come prior to any romantic connection.
It doesn't have to be physical, but I think there needs to be something about that person that turns you on.
Not everyone choses their friends based on a lack of physical attraction or significant others based on mystery or exoticism. It proves that 2 people got on brilliantly and fell in love without the sex part.